to be up front, i have no idea what i want to write about. I'll just write about life i guess. that's always good. and i guess we'll see where that takes us on this little blog entry. i guess something we can start with is this. one of my new favorite songs is "just the way you are" by bruno mars. this song actually took me by surprise the first time i heard it. why? because unlike most songs out there with hidden sexual innuendos about guys thinking girls need to be sexy in order to be viewed as beautiful this song is actually one of those rarities that tells girls that guys think we are pretty just the way we are- WHAT A RELIEF! like dang! i don't have to put on mounds of make-up in order to impress a guy or do my hair for hours to "achieve" perfection. it's nice to know that a guy out there somewhere will see us as pretty in our sweats and hair all a mess and no make-up on, our real beauty shining through! it gives me hope. maybe I'll spend less time in the mirror worried that i don't look completely perfect. Seriously, i think that guys need to speak up and tell girls that they look pretty more often. they have no idea how much a simple compliment like that brightens up our day! even if it seems like we just shrug it off like it's nothing, believe me- it means more to us than we let on...

OK. where to next? i guess i could talk about relationships and the mess we make when trying to figure out the ins and outs of guy/girl friendships without the awkwardness of all those romantic feelings... so question of the day- can guys and girls be "just friends"? i wont downplay the importance of having guys and girls as friends. since we think differently it gives new perspectives into situations when dealing with things and having that in a friendship i think is very important. if you're a girl, having a guy's perspective on something that a girl would normally over-dramatize is great! guys tend to be more level headed in certain situations and for guys having a girl's perspective on things is also great because we can tend to see more possibilities. following me so far? but what happens when we start leaning too much on the opposite sex too much for insight on things? if we start opening up too much to them. i think that's where a lot of the mess starts to happen. girls open their hearts up too fast and too often to their guy friends and guys (being naive and oblivious- sry guys) just let us do it. where's the discretion? from both people?  whatever happened to guarding your heart?

let me leave you with this- i think if we started focusing on just being friends and leaving the whole "romantic-ness" up to God to set before us, i think things will go a lot better for everyone. Just focus on being closer to God and growing closer to Him. Uplift and encourage each other- give each other compliments- it's okay! do everything with agape and phileo love!