higer standards

don't you ever wish that "that special someone" would just like you back? it's so frustrating it seems that guys (and girls) never seem to get it. and so we lower our expectations of each other. we figure if we don't expect anything then we can't ever be disappointed and we can't ever be hurt. and maybe that's true. but then we miss out on love. C.S.Lewis has the most amazing quote. it says,

“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket- safe, dark, motionless, airless--it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.”

wow. to love is to set your heart out there and hope, pray that the other person can feel the love seeping through your heart at them. it doesn't mean they will love you back. no. love is more than being loved back. that kind of love leads to conditions and terms and can no longer be called love.
but let's get back to this higher standards bit. what if men aren't all pigs and boys are all stupid? what if girls actually do know what they want and we aren't manipulative, rather screaming the songs of our hearts our longing to be loved? what if we're all just broken people in need of a loving God?
so, girls, instead of demeaning guys and getting upset when your crush doesn't text you back, don't get upset. one: he's a guy. they don't communicate the same way we do.
two: you two aren't in any sort of commitment and he is not obligated to text you back. tho yes, you're right, it would be nice if he did. if he does- great! if not, don't get upset.

and guys- seriously, give girls more credit. we know more of what we want in a guy than you might think. and it's really not that hard. we're not looking for "the perfect guy" (though i can see where you might think that. i blame chick flicks and Disney) we're looking for a man after God's own heart that shares his love with the people around him. a man than understands how to capture a woman's heart and pursue her and make her feel special. to make her feel loved. it's okay to tell us we look pretty on occasion- or as often as you want!

so to make a end to all this hear me out; not all guys are out to break our precious hearts, girls. and girls don't want to be controlling or manipulative to get guys attention or whatever you think we're trying to do. let's be more understanding and edifying to each other. lifting each other up to be men and women of God!